Parenting advice

Parenting is never easy and if you add domestic abuse into the equation things can become even more difficult and complicated both for parent and child.

  • “I didn't have the same patience with the children when he was there, because I think I was frightened he was going to lose his temper.”  (Mother in Mullender et al., 2002)
  • Evidence suggests that violence can damage the mother–child relationship. Belittling, undermining, insulting and hitting women in front of their children may affect children's respect for their mother's authority, and her ability to exercise authority and control over her children, young people may go onto to abuse their mothers/siblings as having witnessed this behaviour feel it is ‘okay’ to use violence to communicate.
It is worth noting that research suggests that the effects of domestic violence on mothering may not be permanent. Rise works in partnership to provide parenting help and support to help mothers regain their confidence in parenting and renew the bonds with their children.  
Break4Change
Break4change is a Brighton & Hove programme for families where young people are abusive towards their parents or carers.  This can include hitting, name calling, making threats, stealing money or damaging possessions in the home, etc. This is not an anger management course. 
Break4Change is delivered in partnership with the Integrated Team for Families (ITF), the  Youth Offending Service (YOS),  including Youth Crime Prevention and AudioActive.
Break4Change consists of a 10 week programme with a young people’s group and a parents’ group.  The 2 groups run in parallel with each other and include strategies for addressing behaviour.  There is also a creative session with AudioActive within the Young People’s group.  
If you know a young person/parent/carer who you think would benefit from and be motivated to attend the group please contact us.
Positive Parenting Programme (Triple P)
There is often a high level of stress involved in parenting, with confusion and misinformation coming from every direction. Triple P helps you to cut through confusion and gives you clear and simple strategies to turn problems around and prevent problems from developing in the first place. Imagine:
•using the time and energy you usually devote to sorting out kids’ behaviour problems on something enjoyable! 
•having an organised, orderly family routine with ground rules that everyone knows and follows 
•balancing work and family without constant stress and worry.
•being confident that your parenting is giving your kids the best start in life.
Once you’ve done Triple P, you’ll be amazed at how much more enjoyable family life can be.
By Mums 4 Mums
By Mums 4 Mums groups enable women of similar aged children to offer advice on their experiences.  All of the groups focus around keeping safe, and take direction from the women to offer advice on personal queries relating to children.
Toddler Group (5 and under)
Primary School Group (5-11)
Teenage Group (12+)
Parent Child Game
Rise has staff who are trained in the Parent/Child game.  This is a parenting aid using technology to help parenting confidence.  It has consistently  positive outcomes for families:
•Enabling parents and children to have the best possible relationships with each other.
•Improving the quality of parent-child interaction on a daily basis.
•Empowering parents with the relational resources which will enhance their child’s well-being on a long term basis
•Enabling parents to feel deeply fulfilled in their parental role.
Family Work
This work is suitable for a parent and child/ren together.  The work focuses on building relationships between the parent and the child which have been damaged or undermined by the impact of domestic violence or abuse. The work will involve working with a practitioner for up to 12 weeks and  can include art, music, discussions and touch all of which is based around your family’s individual needs.
Talk2me
This is a recovery program for children/young people impacted by domestic violence. This 12 week program looks at communication between children and the non abusive parent , safety as well as responsibility around the domestic violence.
For more information about these and other Rise services please use this contact form.

Research shows that the majority of mothers make considerable efforts to protect their children from the effect of domestic abuse and may actually choose to remain with violent partners when they consider it too dangerous to leave.  

There is evidence that violence frequently continues and often escalates after separation.

undefinedbaby with soft toy bunny rabbitThe effect of abuse (e.g., pain, distress, anger, irritability, fear, reduced mobility, hospitalisation) may impact on a mother's parenting capacity, Domestic violence may result in mothers being emotionally distant, unavailable or unable to meet their children's needs.

“I didn't have the same patience with the children when he was there, because I think I was frightened he was going to lose his temper.” (Mother in Mullender et al., 2002)

Evidence suggests that violence can damage the mother–child relationship.

Belittling, undermining, insulting and hitting women in front of their children may affect children's respect for their mother's authority, and her ability to exercise authority and control over her children, young people may go onto to abuse their mothers/siblings as having witnessed this behaviour feel it is ‘okay’ to use violence to communicate.

But research also suggests that the effects of domestic violence on mothering may not be permanent.

RISE works in partnership to provide parenting help and support to help mothers regain their confidence in parenting and renew the bonds with their children.

Break4Change

Break4change is a Brighton & Hove programme for families where young people are abusive towards their parents or carers.  

This can include hitting, name calling, making threats, stealing money or damaging possessions in the home, etc. This is not an anger management course. 

Break4Change is delivered in partnership with the Integrated Team for Families (ITF), the  Youth Offending Service (YOS),  including Youth Crime Prevention and AudioActive.

Break4Change consists of a 10 week programme with a young people’s group and a parents’ group.  The 2 groups run in parallel with each other and include strategies for addressing behaviour.  There is also a creative session with AudioActive within the Young People’s group.

If you know a young person/parent/carer who you think would benefit from and be motivated to attend the group please contact us.

Positive Parenting Programme (Triple P)

There is often a high level of stress involved in parenting, with confusion and misinformation coming from every direction. Triple P helps you to cut through confusion and gives you clear and simple strategies to turn problems around and prevent problems from developing in the first place. Imagine:

  • using the time and energy you usually devote to sorting out kids’ behaviour problems on something enjoyable. 
  • having an organised, orderly family routine with ground rules that everyone knows and follows.
  • balancing work and family without constant stress and worry.
  • being confident that your parenting is giving your kids the best start in life.

Once you’ve done Triple P, you’ll be amazed at how much more enjoyable family life can be.

Parent Child Game

RISE has staff who are trained in the Parent / Child game.  This is a parenting aid using technology to help parenting confidence.  It has consistently  positive outcomes for families:

       • Enabling parents and children to have the best possible relationships.

       • Improving the quality of parent-child interaction on a daily basis.

       • Enabling parents to feel deeply fulfilled in their parental role.


Family Work

This work is suitable for a parent and child/ren together. The work focuses on building relationships which have been damaged or undermined by the impact of domestic violence or abuse. The work will involve working with a practitioner for up to 12 weeks and can include art, music, discussions and touch all of which is based around your family’s individual needs.

Talk2me

A recovery programme for children / young people impacted by domestic violence. The 12 week programme looks at communication between children and the non abusive parent , safety as well as responsibility around the domestic violence.